THE SETTLED SELF JOURNAL
Reflections on becoming, relating, and being human.
Essays and reflections on attachment, relationships, anxiety, trauma, and nervous system regulation. No definitive answers, just personal perspectives on how we adapt, protect ourselves, and become who we are.
Written by a human. Grounded in lived experience. Offered with curiosity and respect.
Where’d I Go? Perspectives on Anxious Attachment
When our centre of gravity rests in other people, noticing can gradually become watching. A relational exploration of anxious attachment, boundaries, and finding our own ground while remaining connected.
So Close, Yet So Far: Perspectives on Avoidant Attachment.
Love isn’t absent in avoidant attachment. It may be constrained by what closeness once demanded. An exploration of self-sufficiency, intimacy and the possibility of remaining ourselves in relationship.
Love, Fear, and the Space Between: Perspectives on Disorganised Attachment
Disorganised attachment isn’t the worst attachment style. It reflects an impossible bind in which longing for connection and needing protection can exist at the same time.
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