curious about what brought me to relational psychotherapy?
My wish is to support you as you create new ways of relating to yourself and others - ones that open up deeper authentic connection.
We all carry an emotional inheritance from the relationships and worlds that shaped us.
We learn ways of connecting, protecting ourselves, asking for what we need, showing emotion, and caring for others. These ways of being make sense when we truly understand their purpose.
So we get curious about what has helped you cope, belong, and stay connected - and what may be asking for something different now.
Relational psychotherapy makes room for what you think, how you feel about it, how your body responds, and where you are in all of it.
While we can’t know where that will lead, by bringing curiosity, we open to possibility little by little.
Wondering what a relational approach might feel like?
Our intention in-session is for you to deepen your awareness of what it’s like to be you. We’re curious about how you relate to what comes up in the moment - and we reflect on it a little like this …
So … how can today’s session support you most? / course, take your time / and the impact of that is … ? / say more / what makes it feel impossible? / can you share an example of this? / let’s explore that then / so, what you’d most like for yourself is … ? / how is it to imagine yourself like that? / what else comes to mind? / something’s making it difficult to talk about this … / how’s acknowledging that? / tell me more … / so that part of you is saying … ? / I noticed you drifted there … / how do you see that might make sense in context of … ? / what matters is that it’s meaningful for you / can we be curious about it? / when was the last time you felt that? / yes, let’s slow that down / what are you aware of coming up right now? / it’s OK, things come and go / can I share what I heard and understood? / please do … / we bounced somewhere else then / something seems to make it easier to think about that than stay with this / ah, what are you afraid will happen? / I’m curious about the bit in the middle too / maybe we could connect the dots? / what does it feel like, sound like? / I’m following, yes / is there an image that comes with this? / no rush / how is it for you to name that? / could they both be true and both be uncomfortable? / complicated, yes / what story comes up with that? / what’s speaking to you most from this story? / protective too, in some way then? / so why does it annoy you? / I’m curious what you’re sensing in your body right now - I thought I noticed a slight shift / course, take another breath / do what you need … / how is it to say that out loud to me? / sounded like another part of you is trying to be heard too / why are you guilting yourself for that? / I’m interested in how that’s wrong to you / maybe another feeling is tied to it? / so a double judgement / silly, how? / what are you sensing as you hear yourself? / me too / what did you imagine I’d think? / how is it to voice that? / not at all / where are you in all this now? / it doesn’t seem clear cut, no / perhaps it’s about allowing both.
Why our therapeutic relationship matters
Our relationship can reflect the ways we relate elsewhere - giving us something real to get curious about together.
This way of talking and reflecting together is at the heart of relational psychotherapy.
We notice what feels easy for you to say, what feels risky, where you hold back, or when what you hear is different to what I meant. And vice versa. It’s how what we know yet hadn't realised we know, can come to light.
Trusting that you can get out what you really need to in a confidential, non-judgemental relationship can be wildly liberating - even if it's initially uncomfortably new.
A personal note about me
I've been curious about life's big questions for as long as I can remember.
In my twenties, life made me ask myself some of the biggest and most uncomfortable ones, which led me to therapy. My therapy training in psychotherapy gave me a home for so much of what I'd been curious about and unknowingly ebbing towards over the years.
Before practising as a therapist, I worked in the creative and tech sectors, for startups and big co’s. I know a little about the ambition, uncertainty, intensity, performance, and reinvention they demand.
I believe whatever our career, our choices inevitably become tangled up with identity - and are ultimately relational in some way.
Training & Professional Grounding
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My training helps me understand relational struggles from more than one angle - how early relationships shape us, how we adapt to stay connected, how distress can show up in the body, and why knowing something intellectually doesn’t always make it easier to change.
I’m a BACP-registered integrative psychotherapist with an MA in Existential Therapy Approaches. In practice, that means I’m most interested in your lived experience of being you, rather than reducing what you feel to a diagnosis or pathology.
I’ve also completed further specialist training in complex developmental trauma, attachment-based therapy, somatic approaches and mentalization-based therapy, alongside supervision in an attachment-based relational approach.
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I’m a fully insured and registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP - Member No. 416929) and work within its ethical framework.
Qualifications
MA Psychotherapy and Counselling, Regent’s University London (Existential Pathway)
Post-graduate Diploma in Integrative Psychotherapy and Counselling, Regent’s University London
Post-graduate Certificate in Integrative Psychotherapy and Counselling, Regent’s University London
Post-graduate Certificate in Mindfulness-Based Approaches, Bangor University
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My further training helps me work with the ways attachment, trauma, protection and relationship patterns can shape how you feel, connect, and respond to other people. It includes:
NeuroAffective Relational Model for Healing Developmental Trauma (Presently in completion stage)
Attachment Theory in Clinical Practice, The Bowlby Centre
Mentalization-Based Treatment, Anna Freud Centre
Somatic Embodiment and Regulation Strategies, Linda Thai
Trauma-Informed Stabilisation, Janina Fisher
Working with the Disembodied Psyche, Susie Orbach
Building Better Boundaries, Terry Real
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I remain in weekly attachment-based psychoanalytic psychotherapy. Additionally, I have fortnightly attachment-based psychoanalytic supervision. Both are highly experienced, trauma trained UKCP registered therapists.
This helps me reflect on our work, my responses to it, and ascertain what will best support you - which supports both of us, too.I continue my professional development so the way I work keeps evolving alongside new thinking in relational, attachment-based, trauma-informed, and embodied psychotherapy.
You are warmly welcome here
My practice is LGBTQIA+ affirming and inclusive of all identities, relationships, cultures, bodies, beliefs, and ways of living.
You don’t need to edit yourself here or defend why you believe what you believe.
Our focus is to understand your personal relationship choices and how you chose to live your life.
Our work is confidential and guided by the BACP ethical framework. I take your privacy, dignity, and autonomy seriously - and why we talk clearly about the limits of confidentiality before we begin.
