trauma-sensitive relational psychotherapy
in primrose hill, London NW1
Make sense of what’s shaping your relationships - and deepen your capacity for connection.
Welcome to Settled Self Psychotherapy
A space to explore how you live, love, and relate. Uncover the heart of what hurts in your relationships and help old wounds begin to heal.
Discover new ways of connecting with your partner, your family, and of course, with yourself.
HELLO, I’M KATE - A QUALIFIED, BACP-REGISTERED PSYCHOTHERAPIST.
We all long to belong, to feel close to others, and to feel settled in ourselves.
Yet our relationships can be where we feel most hurt, lonely, unseen, or unsure of how to connect.
Relational therapy focuses on the patterns shaping how you connect with partners, family, and yourself. Often these repeat quietly, making complete sense in context, while still leaving us feeling misunderstood or alone.
With curiosity, compassion, and respect for how you've learned to connect, we tune into what may be making relationships painful - and explore ways you might deepen your capacity for closeness - and ultimately, for love.
the focus of my therapy with clients
Therapy for heartbreak, heartache, and relationship patterns that keep hurting
Sometimes what brings you to therapy is crystal clear - other times you just need a place to talk.
You may have lost someone you loved and need space to grieve. Perhaps a relationship has ended, or is starting to break down and left you desperately trying to figure out what’s happening?
Or, it might be that you know certain patterns run deep and go back a long way. You may keep finding yourself in relationships that leave you lonely, misunderstood, or unsure of yourself.
Psychotherapy is somewhere to bring your heartache, feel what longs to be felt, and open to new ways of being - with yourself and others.
There’s no timeline on this. We allow whatever comes up to reveal itself as and when it’s ready.
Questions about what to expect next
Things you may find helpful and reassuring before getting in touch
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1. We have a free short intro call
You can tell me a little about what’s bringing you to therapy, ask any immediate questions, and get a feel for whether you’d like to meet again.
2. We arrange a Discovery Consultation
This is a 50-minute meeting to explore what you’re hoping for and what working together might look like. We agree on what your initial needs are for therapy - that way we’re on the same page.
It can be online or in person.
3. We decide together
After the consultation, we both think about whether it feels like the right fit.
If it does, we’ll agree how we’d like to begin.
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Not at all. Often, it isn’t one clear thing anyway. It might a mix of feelings, a specific relationship that’s hurting, a pattern you keep noticing, or simply the sense that something isn’t quite right. We start wherever you are.
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Yes. I work both online and in person in London.
Most clients prefer in person therapy, for relational issues. However, how I work and the way I am doesn’t change online or in-person. Other than you’ll see more of me if we’re in the same room.
We’ll figure it out once we have our Discovery Consultation. -
Weekly, or twice weekly if you need extra support.
Meeting at the same time, on the same day, and every week helps build a secure base for our work.
in my experience, this is especially important for relational work where feeling insecure and disconnected is how people often feel in their relationships. -
Yes. What you bring to therapy is confidential, and I work within the BACP ethical framework.
There are some legal and safeguarding exceptions, which I’ll explain clearly before we begin.
Please ask about this if it’s causing any anxiety. -
That’s exactly what the Intro Call and Discovery Consultation are for. You don’t have to decide before we’ve met. We both get a chance to see how it feels and whether working together makes sense.
If it doesn’t, I can see who might be a wonderful therapist for you from my network. -
Sessions are £110 in person and online.
If cost is making you hesitate, you’re still welcome to get in touch.
I can’t always offer a concession, but I’d much rather we talk about it than you assume it’s a no.
There’s always help out there when you know where to find it. If it’s not with me, I can help signpost you to other therapists or organisations.
